What I say to these guys, and what I want to say to you, is: Yes. This sucks. I hear your frustration. And I agree with you: online dating IS a predominantly superficial place. Dating in general is wrought with high emotion and low logic. That's why it's so critical that we: 1) Don't let online dating be the end-all-be-all in our love lives, 2) Work on being self-confident, self-aware people.